Book Excerpt – Chapter 14 – A Need for Wellness

Finding Long Term Recovery in the Joy of Seeking

Although you enter recovery devastated, early on you will begin to feel a sense of hope and optimism. Eventually, you might even feel a sense of relief that your addict has made it! He is recovered and safe. Your focus then begins to drift to other areas of life, and perhaps you begin to miss warning signs of a potential relapse. Or, maybe you accept some behaviors that your loved one returned to. Heroin is a patient killer; the changes in your addict will happen over such a long period, it will be hard to notice.

Eventually, you might realize how different your loved one has become. Regardless, once relapse is certain, it is inevitable. Your recovery cycle is coming to another end. Soon, you will be devastated yet again, and your whole life will be upended. Similar to your addict, you must work hard after IOP, with a program in place, to help mitigate and avoid the steep emotional slopes of recovery and relapse. Otherwise, your life and the lives of those around you will be miserable. This is one of the saddest side effects of heroin addiction. Not only is the addict’s life and his personal relationships destroyed, but your life is also at risk. The impact of a heroin addict in your life cannot be understated and should never be underestimated. Heroin can and will destroy you—even if you have never laid eyes on the substance.

What can be done to extend the recovery cycle for both you and your addict? This chapter proposes a way of living that will increase the likelihood of long-term recovery and minimize the likelihood of relapse.